We will begin with an explanation of a natural and correct path towards a full Union of Affect that is devoid of Identity. This path is blanketed by the Identities, which have supplanted lower impulses of mating and union.
CORRECT AND NATURAL DEVELOPMENT OF AN INTIMATE AFFECT
INITIAL CONTACT MAY RESULT IN A STRONG SENSATION OF POTENTIAL UNITY.
THIS MAY RESULT IN PHYSICAL AND MENTAL ATTRACTION.
If THIS IS VALID THEN THERE IS A DEEPER CONTACT WITH A MATCHING OF ATTITUDE AND AROUSAL OF CORRECT AND NATURAL INTENTION TO BRING ABOUT UNITY WITHIN A DEVELOPING INTERACTION.
This is not the mental generation of Identity but a matching of experience which touches beyond words, but may be expressed in communication concepts.
THIS MAY PRODUCE GENERATION OF EXPERIENCE OF AFFECT.
THIS IS AN ERXPERIENCE CONFIRMING OF THE POTENTIAL ADVANCES WITH UNION IF THERE IS A COMMON DIRECTION. CORRECT AND NATURAL ACTIONS, FREE OF IDENTITY, PRODUCE THE GENERATION OF THE FULL EXPERIENCE OF AFFECT IN UNION.
THIS COMBINATION OF ATTITUDES AND INTENTIONS CULMINATING IN CONJOINED ACTIONS CEMENTS THE UNION.
INTIMATE INTERACTIONS WITH PEAK NON-IDENTITY EXPERIENCES OF THE LIFE FORCE CONFIRM AND REINFORCE THE INTERACTION.
It must be made clear that if the UNION is not balanced and harmonious, the AFFECT, which is an experience not to be sought after, will be naturally and gradually reduced.
THE UNITY
This UNITY develops as a result of the natural and unforced volition to be together frequently so that one can be COMPLETE.
This being together necessitates the complete FREEDOM OF EXPRESSION of both GLADNESS, COMPASSION, and BENEVOLENT LOVE within the framework of a common UNITY which may exist for the interacting pair.
If these expressions are inhibited by the IDENTITIES, then the relationship is in peril, because there can be no HARMONY and BALANCE in the relationship. Thus, in the case of expressions of "Being with Affect," which is different and more intense yet less expressive than "Being in Love," which is visceral and emotional, generating a quick and rapid explosive reaction which does not last.
Even with social learning and the development of a common life together, it appears that seven years is the normal span one can expect from a mundane relationship because of the reduction of the "heat," generated by an essentially MASCULINE phenomenon.
In the human and natural advanced expression, the sensations are less expressive and slower in reaching a peak. That is because the Experiences grow in strength with the greater Growth of Union and the Expression of Union in Feminine responses.
IDENTITY PRESENCE
CORRECT INTERACTIONS, we know, are free of the Identities, but if the Identities are present, then they generate a counterfeit LOVE based upon the DEMANDS which are dependent and demanding. It appears at first intense, because it is associated with the experience of Being in Love, the immitation of the primitive courtship experiences.
This SURROGATE LOVE, however, is possessive, demanding and debilitating, being based upon DEMANDS.
It is well camouflaged as a romantic experience, but the base of the experience is false comfort, false pleasure, and false elation. It is this false foundation which manages to keep the normal couple together for a longer time than the BEING IN LOVE stimulus itself generates.
One of the great impediments to Affect in Unity is the concept of one's SELF. Often one hears the phrase, "I want time for myself." What self? What this person is saying is that their IDENTITY which provides an image of the existence of a SELF is threatened.
It feels suffocated, unable to express itself. Indeed, there may be a suffocation in an intimate relationship, but this suffocation is caused by the IDENTITIES, not the relationship. If you feel this suffocation, then that is the time to become closer together in UNITY, releasing both sets of IDENTITIES with mutual assistance, caring, and understanding.
Clearly, if this liberation only occurs for one of the partners, then it is best to release oneself from this relationship.
When you then feel the need to be alone, search for the UNITY which will set you free.
This UNITY, naturally, is not that of chains which bind both together in a form which excludes them from all nature. Find the GREAT AFFECT of an INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP by sharing the UNITY of ASSOCIATION which you discover with the air which you breathe, the earth which you tread, the water and sun which nourish you, and with all things great and small which share this grand illusion which is the LIFE PROCESS.
Remember that the potential Affect within UNION and the realization of that Unity are feedback signals, just as the other experiences of affect are, being an interpretation of the Mind Srate realized at those times.
The old physiological identity response of Being in Love then has been replaced in the human creature, liberated from the physiological bondage of the Identities, containing the potential experience of Affect in Unity. In order to understand these concepts in relation to the theme, we must understand an important element of the process which we call the FEMALE FACTOR.
In general, there are both male and female roles, developed over thousands of years, which are biologically CORRECT and NATURAL and are not contaminated by SOCIAL form, DISCRIMINATION, or a sense of SUPERIORITY or INFERIORITY. These roles, if developed outside of the rubric of SOCIETY as it now exists, are not debilitating or inferior. In fact, they complement one another and assist in the generation of UNITY.