What exactly is a BLIND DHARMA solution? Well it is a solution that, as far as Society is concerned, is correct and fits into its globalized system or suits the moral structure that has been built over centuries. They are much easier answers than Dharma, but of course, they are really blind to the real qualities of the human creature and his or her potential.
We present Sensuality and Sexulity in as clear a manner as possible, because it is here that the groundwork for much SUFFERING and misunderstanding is laid.
Many lifetime INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS between consenting partners are either based upon false concepts of LOVE or a SELFISHNESS which has developed from IGNORANCE.
In fact there are few INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS in this mundane world which may be considered CORRECT, NATURAL, and EMANCIPATING.
Any UNION between partners should result in a value which is greater than the sum of the parts. Think about this for a moment, and you will
see that this is essential.
If all partners do not grow in the relationship, and there is SUFFERING because of that relationship, then the UNION in UNSOUND.
One should then look at that UNION and try to discover if the fault is only one of PERSONAL IDENTITY involvement, or a problem of an inability to proceed on the same path of NATURAL GROWTH and DEVELOPMENT together with a shared natural understanding of NATURAL UNITY.
In any event, there is no fault in the existence of an INCORRECT RELATIONSHIP.
It has simply occurred, that is all.
Perhaps the RELATIONSHIP should be reshaped so that a pair of partners share those experiences in which they meld, and only those, until there is an increment in understanding.
This then opens the door to the possibility of multiple INTERACTIONS.
This is not a problem if the IDENTITIES are truly divorced from the picture in all participants, and if there really is mutual BENEVOLENCE.
The great fear lies in losing possession of what you apparently have and hold with CRAVING, be it for COMFORT, SECURITY, or BELONGING.
It is clear to most people that one can have perfect affect (not stained love) for one's children BENEVOLENTLY in a manner in which none are short-changed in any way. There is infinite BENEVOLENT LOVE available.
When it comes to intimate partners, great EGOISM and FEAR enter the picture.
It is as if there is only a limited amount of LOVE available in an INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP. This is not so.
The early Hippies discovered this, but the non-understanding "outsiders" judged this differently as FREE LOVE, not LIBERATED LOVE, as was the case.
Actually, subliminally perhaps there was good reason for this choice of words, for indeed, BONDED LOVE may be termed PAID LOVE, which perhaps at least in part was not far from the truth, because the cost of SELFISH BINDING in INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS is SUFFERING.
SEXUAL UNION
There is naturally in the human creature the overview of WISDOM which can prevail and prevent the beautiful SEXUAL INTERACTION from being a selfish and therefore inferior experience.
This is exercised in the wise selection of partners.
This in no way can be substituted by the socially oriented SUPER EGO.
This only opens the door to a stronger ID response when INTERACTIONS are socially approved, or when the EGO overrules the SUPER EGO.
In present normal SEXUAL UNION, there is clear DOMINANCE in one form or another, but the key is the SHARING of a mutual EXPERIENCE of PHYSICAL UNION, which is neither IDENTITY-related nor SELFISH in any manner.
The objective, if there can be said to be an objective, is to reaffirm the PHYSICAL UNION in a symbolic form of PROCREATION.
In a correct union the sexual act is not Identity-related. It is an affirmation of human oneness in the symbolic act of procreation.
PROCREATION
There is a NATURAL predisposition, inherited by most people, to have children.
Everyone knows how the actual PHYSICAL UNION is achieved, for it is identical with the SEXUAL UNION which is described above.
There is one important difference. In the ACTION of actual PROCREATION each man and woman has the opportunity to express the depth of their relation in generating a common bond in one tangible life form. The child, in a physiological sense, is a melding of two people. It is one of the great strengths of the human creature that he can provide in the neonate the POSITIVE ENERGY which can establish a beautiful base from which to start its life.
From the first moment of intended PROCREATION, a UNITY should be established in which GIVING and RECEIVING includes a clear understanding of the potential life which may be generated.
This sets the background for the CORRECT ATTITUDE of father and mother, during the gestation period, during birth, and during the early life of the child.
BENEVOLENT LOVE towards an unborn child is perhaps the best gift that a coupling pair could make. It makes the UNION more beautiful, more memorable, and generates the CORRECT AMBIENCE for eventual birth.
SENSUAL UNION
There is another UNION which is a SENSUAL UNION, and this UNION and SEXUAL UNION are distinct and apart.
Unfortunately the world is lost in the abyss of GREED and nowhere more than in the "civilized" Western world, which gives licence to GREED, naming it HUMAN NATURE.
One can see easily what stained SEXUAL UNION is all about from the description given, but the concept of SENSUAL UNION defies understanding for most people.
First of all, SENSUALITY, like TRUE SEXUALITY, is free of the IDENTITIES.
It is the acceptance of the basic SENSATIONS, all of them, free from the ID IDENTITY and its DEMANDS.
It is an acceptance of all the true DISCRIMINATIVE EXPERIENCES not EMOTIONS, free from the EGO IDENTITY and its DEMANDS.
It is the acceptance of true PASSION, without the pressure of SUPER EGO, or its DEMANDS.
It is a complete freedom from the CONSCIOUS CONCEPTS of the IDEAL IDENTITY.
On top of this delicate and natural fabric is laid the VOLITION, a clear intention that is cognitive, to generate a MENTAL UNION between two persons, usually male and female, with PHYSICAL CONTACT as its base and expression.
Thus, SENSUAL UNION, in one form, can provide a beautiful orchestrated use of the SENSATIONS by INTELLECT, in which all the senses may be stimulated by the mutual or individual touching of any parts of the human body. The form is usually slow and rhythmic, and BENEVOLENT.
It naturally, therefore, is a unique experience, a blend between PHYSICAL SENSATION and BENEVOLENT LOVE. That is the essence of this orchestrated approach. It is a GIVING in two dimensions. It is a GIVING as an ACTOR, and the GIVING of the RECEIVER, who virtually declares "My body IS your body."
Each one receives the raw EXPERIENCES, only minimally interpreted by INTELLECT.
All actions are guided by the awakening only of a general ATTITUDE of wishing to share the happiness of the partner in the experience, and to be glad that they are correctly and naturally glad.
Minimal KNOWLEDGE allows CORRECT and CARING ACTIONS in the form of PHYSICAL CONTACT to be performed.
This PURE SENSATION form of SENSUAL UNION can be melded with cognitive words and phrases. This is evoked generated by tapping one's
own GLADNESS, using words instead of the gentle silence of the of UNION.
Clearly the IDENTITIES must be set aside. This then becomes another BENEVOLENT ACT in which internal personal GLADNESS is experienced by transmitted verbal interchange of one's ATTITUDE towards the UNION and one's CARING.
It is important to avoid any form of DECEPTION, either of oneself, or the other person. Confidence and RESPECT is essential.
The third sort of SENSUAL UNION is PASSIONATE in which the INTELLECT permits the expression of ACTIONS which are based on PASSION. It is as if INTELLECT declares "This is the PASSION, which should be expressed by my BODY as a symbol of our UNION." Externally it appears similar to SEXUAL UNION, but there is an intensity which is PERSONAL and GIVING, divorced from a act of pure PHYSICAL UNION.
INTELLECT is abandoned, along with the IDENTITIES, during the TRUE INTERACTION, so that the INTENSITY can be released, but not before the ground is set for the proposed COMMUNICATED PASSION. Thus, the PASSION of SENSUAL UNION is GIVING and RECEIVING, while the PASSION of TRUE SEXUAL UNION is SHARING.
These are quite different. It would require a whole book to elaborate on this theme alone, but perhaps you can see that intimate relationships are BENEVOLENT in nature and FREE of IDENTITY ATTACHMENT.